June 2013 Archive

Happiness and YA

When I was a teen, I believed I would be happy if I would just fall in love, if I would have a boyfriend, if I would find that perfect someone. I wasted a lot of time not being happy because I didn’t have those things.

So much time lost.

But this is older-me talking, and older-me knows many things I wish younger-me would have realized.

I read an article yesterday (thanks for sending it Lauren) about thinking beyond the things we desire. Actually, the article is about suicide. At one point, it makes the point of questioning the things we focus on. Instead of focusing on dying, why not focus on what you could do with your life. If you had three months to live, what would you do? Would this liberate you in some way?

I imagine older-me having the following conversation with younger-me:

OM: What’s keeping you from being happy?
YM: I don’t have a boyfriend. No one loves me.
OM: *shakes head* So many people love you, but would having a boyfriend really make you happy?
YM: Yes?…yes.
OM: How would having a boyfriend actually change things? What’s really keeping you from being happy.
YM: …I suppose I am.

What if, in our writing, we can help young adults realize this? Realize there’s more to life than what they see on the surface?

I have seen a change over the last years– more YA books are available that show teens having real relationships that go beyond the surface, are about girl’s learning how to love themselves without a boy loving them first (or vice versa!), that have teenagers who learn how to think for themselves and are proud of doing so.

At the same time, there are still so many characters who are bound by certain things they believe will make them happy. If they can just date the popular guyif they can get into the right school…if they can…

But what if we can get away from that? What if instead, we can help teenagers understand that “No one is in control of your happiness but you…” –Barbara De Angelis

Learning this truth, that we control our happiness, is a sort of freedom. And maybe in our writing, we can help others see it too.

Do you know of any books that send the message that we are in charge of our own happiness? If so, I’d love to hear about it!

**As a note, I am in no way commenting on depression here, or any sort of chemical imbalance. That is a different topic entirely.

Long Time No See!

Wow guys, it’s been a while since I’ve blogged. I’ve been in Revisionland and gotten sucked down the rabbit hole that is the internet more times than I can count. I’ve been researching and plotting a new (shiny) idea. Mostly though, I’ve been enjoying the writing process and prepping to move (yes, again).

But I was interviewed the other week and the post has finally gone up. Go check it out! It’s all about my querying process and finding the perfect agent 🙂